Not for Valentine’s day, though you can do that too. Draw a heart on the back of your hand, put it on a ring, bracelet, your fingernails, wherever you will notice it most. Do this to remind yourself to love unconditionally, to love when you don’t want to, to open your heart when your 4 year old says “fucky head! I hate you!” Do this to retrain yourself, your responses. Do this to remember also to keep an open heart for yourself, to practice loving and forgiving even yourself.
:: Unreasonable Love ::
To love *unconditionally* means you don’t need a
“reason” to justify loving. In other words…
1. When you have a good reason to love, then you love.
2. When you have a good reason *not* to love, you love anyway.
3. You love for no reason at all.
In our conditional-loving culture, “reasonable” loving
is the norm. So today let’s practice the second and
third types of loving…
Whenever your child behaves in a way that would
conventionally be seen as an excuse to love *less*,
be a rebel and love *more*! That doesn’t mean praising
behavior you dislike, it means responding with your
heart wide open.
Also, draw a heart on the back of your hand (or create
any easily noticeable cue), and whenever you notice
it, say “I love you” or offer your child a hug, a
loving gaze, or any loving gesture.
How does it feel to love “just because”? Are you
willing to love *yourself* “unreasonably” too? 🙂