Category Archives: write it down

#10 Draw a Heart

Not for Valentine’s day, though you can do that too.  Draw a heart on the back of your hand, put it on a ring, bracelet, your fingernails, wherever you will notice it most.  Do this to remind yourself to love unconditionally, to love when you don’t want to, to open your heart when your 4 year old says “fucky head! I hate you!”  Do this to retrain yourself, your responses.  Do this to remember also to keep an open heart for yourself, to practice loving and forgiving even yourself.

Inspired by the Daily Groove, by Scott Noelle (copied below)
THE DAILY GROOVE ~ by Scott Noelle
www.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove

:: Unreasonable Love ::

To love *unconditionally* means you don’t need a
“reason” to justify loving. In other words…

1. When you have a good reason to love, then you love.
2. When you have a good reason *not* to love, you love anyway.
3. You love for no reason at all.

In our conditional-loving culture, “reasonable” loving
is the norm. So today let’s practice the second and
third types of loving…

Whenever your child behaves in a way that would
conventionally be seen as an excuse to love *less*,
be a rebel and love *more*! That doesn’t mean praising
behavior you dislike, it means responding with your
heart wide open.

Also, draw a heart on the back of your hand (or create
any easily noticeable cue), and whenever you notice
it, say “I love you” or offer your child a hug, a
loving gaze, or any loving gesture.

How does it feel to love “just because”? Are you
willing to love *yourself* “unreasonably” too? 🙂

http://dailygroove.net/unreasonable-love

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#9 Put Yourself On Top of the List

Written by Donna Davies-Bracket for I Love Mondays Life Coaching.

Three Questions That Will Change Your Life

Like every parent, your day is filled with things other people want or need you to do.

You are great at getting things done for your kids. And you’re not so bad at doing around the house either.

But it isn’t enough.

You rarely get to do the things you really want to do. You continually put off the stuff that matters most.

The reason is simple.

You mistake what you need to do for your family and what needs to get done at home with what is important to you.

Not that your family and your home aren’t important – they are.

But there are other things you have been meaning to do. There is more to you than just your home and your kids. Right?

But we tend to get caught up in taking care of others instead of ourselves.

If you’re like most parents, you spend the day reacting to what needs your attention most right now. You go from one thing to the next until the day is over.

But, at the end of it, you feel like something is missing. You didn’t get what you wanted done.

Enter the three magic questions. Three little questions to get control of your day.

  1. What is important for me to do for my family today?
  2. What is important for me to do around the house today?
  3. What is important for me to do just for me today?

When you focus on what is important just for today, you increase your ability to do it.

Knowing what your family needs on any given day is easy. But this will help you get even better at delivering on what is important to them. You know, like showing up on time today or coming through on your promise to make cookies this afternoon.

And knowing what needs to be done at home, frees you up to quit after doing it. There will always be more tomorrow. You don’t have to do it all today.

But you will also know what you want for yourself not just what others need from you.

And that distinction will change your life.

The answer to the last question won’t seem as important. It won’t be urgent. And you will be tempted to put it off until the “real” work is done.

Don’t.

Do your own thing first.

The other things on the the list will get done. You almost always come through on that stuff already. But you almost never come through on your own stuff.

If you don’t put it at the top of the list, it won’t get done.

And doing it will make you feel good all day. And soon you will stop thinking you never have time for yourself.

Get in the habit of asking these three questions each morning. Do your own thing first. Then move on to the other important stuff.

Everything else is gravy.

Now it’s your turn: Put a small pad and a pen beside your bed. Ask yourself these three little questions every morning for a week and see what happens.
Have a wonderful week!

All the best,

Donna

P.S. Try it right now. I would love to hear what happens in your day!

donna@ilovemondaylifecoaching.com

http://ilovemondayslifecoaching.com/